Hubby Speaks

2005-11-21T18:46:00.000-08:00

The New Blog's Just A Click Away!

http.www.emotionalrefueling.blogspot.com

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2005-11-17T23:33:00.001-08:00

SWITCHING GEARS

I will be switching gears with the Topic that I have been writing about.
I will be moving on to another passion of mine "Emotional Refueling".
How To Stop Living Depleted Lives.

So, Starting Monday The new topic begins.
Thanks for all the feedback and support concerning the topic of reactions.

2005-11-17T23:33:00.000-08:00

REACTION UNDER STRESS TEST

2005-11-16T07:00:00.000-08:00

Updated Personalization Added

The following questions explore how you typically React
when you’re in the middle of a stressful situation.

Pick a specific relationship at work or at home. Then answer the items while thinking about how you typically approach risky conversations in that relationship

Answer each question with a “True” or “False” response.

1. At times I avoid situations that might bring me into contact with
people I’m having problems with.

2. I have put off returning phone calls or e-mails because I simply
didn’t want to deal with the person who sent them.

3. Sometimes when people bring up a touchy or awkward issue I try
to change the subject.

4. When it comes to dealing with awkward or stressful subjects,
sometimes I hold back rather than give my full and candid
opinion.

5. Rather than tell people exactly what I think, sometimes I rely on
jokes, sarcasm, or snide remarks to let them know I’m
frustrated.

6. When I’ve got something tough to bring up, sometimes I offer
weak or insincere compliments to soften the blow.

7. In order to get my point across, I sometimes exaggerate my side
of the argument.

8. If I seem to be losing control of a conversation, I might cut people
off or change the subject in order to bring it back to where I think
it should be.

9. When others make points that seem stupid to me, I sometimes let
them know it without holding back at all.

10. When I’m stunned by a comment, sometimes I say things that
others might take as forceful or attacking—terms such as “Give
me a break!” or “That’s ridiculous!”

11. Sometimes when things get a bit heated I move from arguing
against others’ points to saying things that might hurt them
personally.

12. If I really get into a heated discussion, I’ve been known to be
tough on the other person. In fact, they might even feel a bit
insulted or hurt.

SCORING
If you answered “True” to questions 1-6, then you lean
toward clamming up or silence when involved in a stress filled situation.

If you answered “True” to questions 7-12, then you lean toward
aggressiveness in stress filled situations.

What ever section has the most “True” answers is the
reactionary tendency you lean toward during stress.

Did you discover anything new about yourself? Did you
Confirm what you already knew?

The importance of this test is for self awareness, which
is the beginning of any change process.

To Jamie, the Love of My Life.

2005-11-11T18:45:00.000-08:00

Happy 22nd Anniversary

THE JAMIE TRUBUTE
She's Intelligent.
She's Caring.
She's Passionate.
She's A Great Mother.
She's A Great Wife.
She Challenges Me.
She’s Patient with Me.
She Supports Me.
She's Funny.
She’s Sexy.
She's Beautiful.

I Love You Very Much!!
HUBBY

One Day Two People Did the Same Old Thing, But One Of Them Did It Differently

2005-11-09T00:23:00.000-08:00

I'm reading a book entitled "I'm Right, You're Wrong. Now What?" It's a book about direct and effective ways to settle disputes without fighting, folding or fleeing. Even if the other person does not cooperate you can improve the tone of your disagreement, sort out what you want or need most and come up with practical action plans that lead to a satisfactory outcome. The approach begins with the answers to these six questions.

1. What are my negative feelings?
2. What's the fairest way to describe the problem?
3. Why do I want to work things out?
4. How would I like things between us to be?
5. How can I actually get that?
6. And if that doesn't work, what else can I do?

Think of a problem you are having with another person at this time. If you apply these questions to your thought process, does it help you? Can you think of any better questions to ask?

REACTIONS AND INTENTIONALITY

2005-11-04T17:00:00.000-08:00

I have made certain commitments about food and exercise in my life, but how serious I am about those commitments is difficult to determine without measuring my progress. A scale serves as one tool of accountability. Am I achieving my goal, or am I missing it? Ultimately the scale reveals how effective I have been in living up to my commitment.

It is unlikely that we will improve our reactions and deepen our relationship with others by approaching it in a casual or haphazard manner. People do not casually drift into being in control of their reactions, just as people do not drift into becoming loving, joy-filled, or patient. It requires intention and effort.

The default mode of the human heart is to drift. If a person desires to experience real transformation in this area of reactions, it's typically because they have faced either the consequences of their destructive behavior or someone else has cared enough to say, "I want you to live a different way, and I want to help you know if you are serious about it."

We all need to make some key decisions on our journey of reaction transformation. What are my commitments to becoming a more patient & loving reactor? What are my commitments about living in authenticity? Keeping these commitments requires intentionality and a level of accountability to serve as a scale revealing how we're achieving our goals or missing them.

Please give me your feedback on ways in which someone might gauge or measure how they are doing in the area of reactions, and how they might welcome more accountability to themselves.

REACTIONS AND FILTERS part 2

2005-11-02T23:49:00.000-08:00

My reactions, unfiltered, have little chance of bringing about  better relationships or environments around me.

Filters are created by awareness of your immediate state of  mind, emotionally and physically. Filters detect and help  weed out responses that are immersed in fears,  disappointments, past hurts, feeling overwhelmed, feeling  lonely,  irritated, tired etc.

For instance if I run my reactions through my filter and  realize that I’m afraid of answering questions from a person,  then I will be defensive. Answering those questions may be  the best thing for everyone in the long run. But my fear of  being questioned or judged will cause me to shut down or be  angry.

If my child does something that irritates me, my unfiltered  reaction may be destructive to the relationship, but filtered will  allow me to be aware of my inner state of being before  reacting or taking appropriate action steps.

Being self aware as well as sensitive to extenuating  circumstances will also help us understand what inadvertently  causes us to shut down or ramp up emotionally.

How do we pause long enough to filter our reactions? First,  by being aware that the filtering process needs to take place.  If you are not aware of filtering, then there is no reason to  filter. The reason you filter coffee is because of the distasteful  coffee grounds that cause drinking coffee to be disgusting  and ruin the drink. The same is true about our un-filtered  reactions, they become distasteful and the ruin of  relationships and communication.

If I can catch myself before I react or if I have time to consider  my reactions before I attend a meeting or have an interaction  between an employee, friend or family member, I am much  more likely to have an outcome that is conducive for success  no matter what that success is defined by. For example, if  success is deepening the relationship, than pausing before or  considering my reaction before a conversation can bring  about that result. If success for a situation means being heard  and bringing about a proper response than I can accomplish  that as well.  If success is to bring about some sort of change  in behavior or a motivation than I can process my anger or  irritation before I just let it fly.  This is not an attempt to not  feel emotions that should be felt, rather it is an attempt to  identify emotions and circumstances before they cause an  under reaction or an over reaction.  Under reactions mostly  are caused by fear of how the other person or persons will  respond to you and what you have to say.

Under reaction in relationships allow things to go unsaid that  should be said.  If we are tired when we get home from work  and the only thing we have on our mind is relaxing in our  favorite chair while watching the television, we are more likely  to not confront children or spouse who are doing things that  are unreasonable or destructive. The fear is that if we  confront and they blow up, the entire evening could be the  antithesis of what we had hoped for and possibly needed.

Also, there are some people for whom it is very difficult for  them to confront for fear of being disliked. And still others who  have self esteem issues and never feel like they have the  right to bring correction in any given circumstances.

Yet still there are others who have a hard time ignoring  situations around them and are quick to speak up where they  see things out of control or need someone to address the  problems.  Many people in this category feel like they have  answers to a lot of problems that they encounter, and aren’t  shy to bring that realization to all who have ears to hear.

Surprisingly, one of the biggest obstacles for people is when  they are very good leaders and have a reputation for making  the right calls.  This confidence lures these people into “not”  pausing enough and checking their knee jerk reactions. This same confidence, which in most other areas of their life  serves them well, is now interfering with what’s best. Which   is to pause and run their thoughts and knee jerk reactions  through the filter of awareness.

So for the timid, there needs to be a concerted effort to step  into situations around them and speak up, and for the  aggressive, a concerted effort to pause and be aware of their  knee jerk reaction or thoughts and possibly ratchet it down a  notch.

Reactions and Filters

2005-10-27T22:51:00.000-07:00

As we react to others, it is important to know that we don't know certain things. We are all affected by the circumstances and situations in life that we have been through. The pain, the discouragement of the hardship of life for some, the ease of life for others all play a part. Just as certain colored lenses filter out different colors in our sunglasses, we all look at everything we are involved with and every person we are in front of with certain lenses that prohibit us from seeing all of the colors, shades and hues before us. The awareness and ownership of that truth should be enough to help all of us give pause in just about every reactive response. We have to own the truth and understand that the situation in front of us has colors associated with it that we are unable to see.

For instance, if someone has had a relatively easy life, relationships have come easy, their looks are acceptable and attractive according to society, things have come fairly easy and home life has been stable, minimum health issues to deal with, (Let's also put them in a church or faith setting for the majority of their life), they will view life very differently than someone who has faced pain, tragedy, failure, abuse, hurt, or rejection on a continual basis. Both of these will have different judgments. They both will be crippled in their reactions to others and life because they filter out different colors of life.

Even though those are extreme opposites, it is true of all of us. Our natural ability to react or respond to the circumstances in life has become crippled exactly because of our unique life lessons. We need to know that we don't know certain things. We have to own the fact that we do not see clearly, and some colors, shades, hues, and circumstances have been filtered by our own past, the good and the bad. Not being aware of this fact causes us to limit our ability to interact and bring about positive, lasting change in a lot of situations in our life.

Even though it is impossible to trade sunglasses and see life or the problem through someone else's lenses, it is possible to own the fact that this is a truth worth investigating. Just maybe adding the fact that "We Know That We Don't Know" to our reactions tool box will be worthwhile.

Reactions and Fear - Part 2

2005-10-26T00:12:00.000-07:00

Most marriages and office environments live the inauthentic way. It's also the same way in Congress with all the pork barrel spending. You don't say anything about my spending project and I'll leave your inappropriate spending alone also. The minute you don't, then you will have my full vengeance coming your way. So play along with the way it has always been. The best thing for the country would be to lay all that on the table and the members of Congress truly speak authentically about the others' projects without fear or favor. This is a very simplistic Idea but very tough to get to because it means revealing things about that we would rather hang on to and control.

The caveat to this is if you are the type of person that has a hard time speaking up. Maybe you don't know how to verbalize what you want to say, or you are very timid. You will always be taken advantage of unless you find your voice and a way of communicating what you want and need. It will always be that way.

One of my children has a hard time speaking up for what they want. Unless I take the time and trouble to help them know how to speak up, then they will always be taken advantage of. So I have to be creative and encourage them to speak in situations and circumstances, and also let them know that it is not going to feel comfortable for them to do it. They cannot wait until they feel like speaking up; they have to speak up before the feeling comes. It is always easier to act your way into a feeling than to feel your way into an action. This can be learned. It may never be second nature for this person, but they can recognize the signs of being taken advantage of. Understanding the emotions and feelings they feel when they need to confront a situation, but feel crippled to speak up. That feeling is their clue to act. If you identify with the last paragraph, you too can learn to navigate life easier and end up with a better life.

All the above comes down to authentic living and being aware of how fear cripples our reactions.

Reactions and Fear -Part 1

2005-10-24T21:32:00.000-07:00

One of the problems with navigating through the waters of our lives, offices, and families is that fear keeps us from moving forward. You may fear the retribution from someone in your office. You fear their reactions and the power they might have over you. It causes great pause within you and causes you not to do the right things.

In situations like these, you are almost held hostage.

There are many times that we don't react to situations in our homes or offices or neighborhoods because if we react to the things that we don't like about someone else, we open the door for them to react against something that we are doing that they don't like. If Ithink my wife is spending a lot of money on certain things we don't need, I should bring the issue up for discussion. After all, we agreed upon a budget, and she is taking our budget out of balance and moving us further away from our goals. But, I don't bring it up because there are things that I've been spending money on that she might consider frivolous.

There is this game that we play that goes something like this, "I'm not going to approach you about the things that you are doing wrong, so you don't have a right to talk to me about the things that I am doing wrong.” We know in our heart that there are things we should be talking about. Things are bugging us, but if we bring them up it's going to give them the right to do the same. This is clearly an inauthentic way of living in relationships, but we do it all the time.

The only way to get past it is to initiate a conversation and get it all out on the table, and that means you're going to have to discipline yourself to create time for discussion and be willing to own up to your wrongs. That's not a bad thing. It's a hard thing. This difficult thing that we are fighting against is the very thing that keeps us from creating and meeting goals.

The truth is that if my spending was in check and that money went to the things that were important (savings, investments) our family would be a lot better. So, I will avoid approaching my wife, so that she will avoid confronting me. But, by doing this, I am hindering my family in the long run. The same is true in the office or whatever the social or relational circumstance. You hold your feelings back about the other person's negative traits and your resentment festers. If they bring up issues about your negative traits, then the gloves come off, and you fire back with all that you've been storing up. As soon as they unleash or open the dam, then so do you. It becomes a mess. Both people begin to regurgitate on each other the things they've been secretly keeping at bay. It was an inauthentic relationship. I guess we all have them in some areas of life.

The reason is because we do not like to have our way of navigating life curbed and controlled by someone else. But, if we permit someone to speak into areas of our life and hold us accountable (not controlled), it
actually gives us the life that we really want and desire.
The former way is to be in control but be damaging to
our self, and the right way is to be authentic and realize
our dreams together.
(to be continued)

2005-10-21T00:01:00.000-07:00

REACTIONS AND BRAIN PROCESSES

When we react to something, there are a few things
going on: emotions, the facts, the circumstance, and
the other people. How do we determine what set of
facts/circumstances warrant what level of response?
Is it possible to always run through a checklist of
emotional and factual items before we allow a type of
reaction? Isn't that what we do every time we react?
It is the process that our brains go through in a
split second, and we react based on the offense, the
level of offense, and the level of problems that the
offense causes us.

We do this all the time. For example, someone cuts you
off on the highway. In a split second, your brain
determines whether or not the incident was dangerous
or problematic enough that it should illicit a response.
And then what seems like an involuntary action from us
takes place. But actually, it is a completely voluntary
action. Based on if the situation had happened
before, based on how we are doing emotionally the
instant it happens, based on how frustrating the day
has been, based on how many other times recently you
have felt injured or slighted or taken advantage of,
your brain processes all that and spits out a
response. You act upon it or you resist it. Those are
the two options that we have.

If we become aware that all this is going on, then we
can participate in the process. I have come to
understand how my body works with regard to health
issues. When I am not aware of what certain things do
to my body when I eat them, then I am unable to draw a
line of understanding from the eating to the health
problem that results. But once I am aware of why the
body operates the way it does, then I can understand
that certain things that I eat or participate in will
bring about unwanted results. I enter into the process
of changing the unwanted result by changing part of
the process that leads to that result.

In the same way, being able to help people draw a line
connecting reactions to personal environment can help
us own the process instead of being enslaved to
whatever the outcome may be. You can train yourself
to be more involved in those split second decisions.
Awareness is the first step. Honesty and authenticity
follow close behind.

You can train yourself to be more involved in those
split second choices. Awareness goes up, and you build
into your framework the following questions: Is this
affecting me for extreme harm, or is it something that
will pass and I can just let go? Do I need to involve
myself in the situation, or can I stay out and off to
the side?

You can determine the severity of the situation, and
plan your response to achieve the outcome you desire.
Be honest about how you're feeling at the moment. For
example, just being aware of how tired you are will
allow you to not overreact when the children are just
doing normal stuff. It confuses those around you when
you react one way one day, and react another the next.
Your reaction isn't based on the other person's
action, as much as it is based on your stressed
emotions, lack of sleep, etc. It is all about knowing
your self and feeding that information into the mix of
other facts. That is what will bring about the perfect
reaction. Training your self to strip away the things
that are not truly relevant and giving credence to the
things that are true before reacting.

2005-10-19T12:04:00.000-07:00

PREDISPOSED TO REACT

We are predisposed to react in certain ways. Call it
our knee-jerk reactions. Some of us are predisposed to
offer grace to people in larger doses and more often
than others. Our reactions to others are colored by how
we view the world. For instance, if I am somebody who
constantly lives in the grey areas, who looks at rules as
suggestions, I will be more likely to understand when
someone else breaks or bends a rule. But, if I am a
highly disciplined individual who follows the rules,
then I have little room for people who skirt around
them as though they don't really matter.

Those who are more at ease with breaking the rules are
less likely to throw the book at people who deserve it.
This predisposition is a strength and a weakness, just as
the predisposition of those who are rules oriented is a
strength and weakness (They never miss a chance to
throw the book at people).
Understanding where you are allows you to get out
of your own way and balance your reactions.

Do you have the tendency to easily dismiss people's
lack of following procedures? You should be aware
that you downplay attitudes or actions that might
eventually bring harm to your family or business. By
interrupting your knee-jerk reaction towards "letting
things go all the time," you can move to more of a
balanced reaction that says, "I need to hold people
accountable for their actions."

Do you have the tendency to jump down people's
throats when they bend or break the rules? You
should be aware that you may be reacting before
listening to what they have to say. They may have
a valid reason for what they did. Interrupt your
knee-jerk reaction of "attacking all who veer
from procedure" and move towards a balance
that says, "Ease into holding people accountable
until I know all the facts."

What is your predisposition?

2005-10-17T11:34:00.000-07:00

REACTIONS & TIMING

Perfect reactors understand that the best time to deal with problems is not necessarily at the moment the situation raises its ugly head. Most of us never get to any sort of resolve from our conflicts, because the only time we deal with problems is in the heat of the situation, which is almost always the wrong time. We go from one level of emotional escalation to another, and problems don't get resolved in those times. We don't think very clearly when we're screaming.

What is the desired goal? To properly deal with and resolve the problem so it doesn't keep popping up again. Instead, most of us battle the same problems over and over again, with no real lasting resolve. We do what we can to bring calm to the present and get out of the tension, but that is no resolve at all.

The best resolve comes from a perfect reaction in the present and setting a future time to deal with the problem when people are at their best or at least outside of the immediate emotional upheaval. This takes a great amount of discipline, but it is possible more often than you might think. You can build this into your life and make a world of difference in how you approach resolving conflict.

Do you think you can try this? Next time you find yourself in an problem situation, try and meet it with a calm response. Acknowledge that the problem is having a negative effect on all involved. Set up a meeting around the dinner table or in the conference room to address it where each person can have their say. This will allow some time to pass, so when the problem is addressed, it won't be in the heat of the moment. Have people bring notes if they want to, and then together try and decide a course of action that can be agreed on to bring about resolve.

We've used this approach in our own family. It has worked for me in the business environment as well. People want to be heard. Many problems can be solved if you control your knee-jerk reactions and stop the situation from escalating, then guide people into a time for discussing the problem with cooler heads at a later time.

Mull this over and give me your thoughts. I'll contunue with more on Wednesday.

2005-10-15T22:48:00.000-07:00

REACTIONS & CONFLICT

Our reactions to things, people, events, words, situations, and circumstances set up the rest of our lives for today and for the future. Reactions are powerful. We all have hundreds of reactions throughout the week. Some are small and some are huge in scope.

Many times we will walk away from a conversation and wish we would have reacted differently. Although it is impossible to react perfectly in every situation, you can greatly improve your percentage of perfect reactions.
Some people are always overreacting, and some people seem to never react harshly over anything. Which is right? The truth is that neither is right all the time.

There will be and should be times in our lives that provoke intense reactions. There are times to be angry, irritated, scared, irate, and there are times to be graceful, patient, and gentle. Knowing the difference between the two will allow you to enjoy great relationships and opportunities in life. Not knowing how to react will cause you constant relational strain.

I believe that underreacting to situations is just as harmful as overreacting in others. It's obvious that the overreactors get more attention, but the underreactors among us do as much harm if not more at times.

Let's say that I am tired and looking forward to relaxing once I get home. As soon as I walk through the door, I am faced with an explosive situation that needs to be dealt with. If I begin to get involved in the conflict, I am in for a lengthy discussion or battle, so I am tempted to ignore it or just say enough to diffuse it for now in order to avoid a fight.

But is it always the right thing to diffuse the conflict and maintain peace? Many people have an unconscious rule that they live by in their homes or with certain people in their homes (or at work) that goes something like this, "Peace at any price." We've learned not to upset some in our household or office no matter what, because it will be awful for everyone for the rest of the day, weekend, or vacation. So we pacify each other thinking that's the best, but there is always a price to pay.
(To be continued...)

2005-10-14T01:22:00.000-07:00

THE REACTIONARY ROAD

When one person reacts to another, something takes
place that sets a course for your future together.
Whether it is only a future that consists of the next
few minutes, or it is one of years, our reactions
determine how that future unfolds. One of the ironies
surrounding reactions and communication is that even
though we do it every day of our lives, most of us
never improve or become more effective.

Our communication skills are weak, and our reactions
and responses to those around us are far from skilled.
We find it difficult to relate to those we love as
well as those we don't.

After observing and living with the results of my
reactions (good and bad) and counseling hundreds of
other people about theirs, I am convinced that very
few of us navigate the reactionary road with
consistent success.

Within the walls of our homes, the sting, anguish and
loneliness caused by poor reactions makes the home
become the eye of the storm instead of a shelter from
the storm.

I will be writing about reactions over the next
several days and how to move towards developing
"Perfect Reactions." Is it possible 100% of the time?
No way. Is it possible to improve your percentages
from where they are now? Absolutely! So, pull up a
chair, let's have a talk about the damage caused by
overreacting and underreacting.

With Passion and Purpose,

Hubby

2005-10-10T14:15:00.000-07:00

Help Hubby Blog

I am a neophyte in the blog world, so I am trying to figure out what are the polite, appropriate things to do. This whole comment thing has me confused, and I am seeking advice. When I write a post and place it out in the blogging universe to be read, strangers come by to read it. Some leave comments about what they read. Now, this is where I get confused. According to blog etiquette, what's my next move?

I am the sort of person that if you gave me a present for my birthday, anniversary, or whatever, and I thanked you when you handed it to me, I think I'm done with the dance. You came, you gave, I thanked, done deal. I've never understood the need or requirement to send a thank you card to the same person that I already thanked in person for the gift. So I have never participated in the dance. Or, If I invite someone over to my house, and at the end of the evening, they said thank you for the lovely dinner and conversation, there is no need for them to also write me a card saying basically the same thing. (Unless they didn't mean it in the first place, and by sending a card, they were just trying to make up for the first non-meaning thank you.) But, if that's the case, then how do I trust their second attempt at saying Thank You?

This brings me to the blogger world. When someone comments about something I wrote, do I write something on my own site back to them to acknowledge that I read their comment about my post and just wanted to let them know? Do I also need to return the favor by going to their site, reading about them and perusing their latest posts, leaving comments along the way, so I pay them back? God knows I do not want to begin accumulating blogger debt!

Then, do I add to my daily agenda to check back on all the blogs that I have left comments on to see if they have commented and acknowledged that I passed through their blogger kingdom and left a mark? Must I systematically check all the sites to see if they have acknowledged my acknowledgment? And if they have, do I once more comment about their comment acknowledging my comment, and do I do it on their blog or mine?

Hubby

2005-10-09T01:11:00.000-07:00

Importance of Having a Personal Vision
Numerous experts on leadership and personal development emphasize how vital it is for you to craft your own personal vision for your life. Warren Bennis, Stephen Covey, Peter Senge, and others point out that a powerful vision can help you succeed far beyond where you'd be without one. That vision can propel you and inspire those around you to reach their own dreams. I've learned in my own life and in working as an executive coach that if you don't identify your vision, others will plan and direct your life for you.

Use this Tool to think through and start to craft your personal vision.
Personal Vision Tool
Things I Really Enjoy Doing
What Brings Me Happiness/Joy
The Two Best Moments of My Past Week
Three Things I'd Do If I Won the Lottery
Issues or Causes I Care Deeply About
My Most Important Values
Things I Can Do at the Good-to-Excellent Level
What I'd Like to Stop Doing or Do as Little as Possible

Did any of these questions trigger some ideas about what you'd
like to be doing with your life? If so, keep thinking about the
questions and your answers, and continue your personal research.

A compelling vision can help you succeed, be more satisfied with your life,
and get the most out of your relationships.

Here's Mine

HUBBY'S PERSONAL VISION STATEMENT

To Stay in close, obedient relationship with God

To increase the level of passion, understanding, emotional,
physical, relational intimacy with Jamie.

To conduct myself in such a way that I enjoy respected, fun,
intimate relationships with my children in the present,
which promotes the same results for life.

To have control over my time and schedule.

To build great amounts of wealth properly, and used in God honoring ways.

To Create a Company of influencers. That becomes the most sought after Coaching, Motivational, analysis company in the United States.
Utilizing the most inventive, creative, tactile seminars
and personal learning environments ever experienced.

To continue having an impact on the local body of Christ,
using the gifts that God has entrusted to me.

Do I live up to every part of this every day?
No, but I keep trying.
Writing it made me think about what's most important to me.
That vision helps me to measure my behavior against those goals.

NOW IT'S YOUR TURN!

With Passion and Purpose,

Hubby